Mi ai

Mi-ai - Part of a Traditional Japanese Wedding

While it is true that more and more young men and women are united in marriage on their own will through love, the practice of "Mi-ai" is still widely observed to end in a happy married life for many. "Mi-ai" is an interview for a man and woman with a view to marriage, as arranged by their parents or a third party acting as a go-between. It is proposed with due consideration to social backgrounds and other factors of the prospective bride, bridegroom and their families. It is not compulsory on either of the parties concerned to accept such "Mi-ai" as a promise for marriage.

Prior to 1900's, the practice of "mi-ai" (an arranged meeting between a man and a woman with a view to marriage) was more a formality than an opportunity for a young man and woman to meet and get to know each other. Today, a matchmaker may be a family member or a friend who would arrange for an initial meeting between the young man and woman thought to be suited for each other in marriage. These initial meeting is usually arranged at a public place such as a restaurant or a theatre.

In the old days when "mi-ai" was a mere formality, a young man would be invited to the home of the young woman. If he were favourably impressed, he would leave behind a fan to indicate his acceptance to pursue the marriage. In the old days however, the bride-to-be had little say on the issue.

Hakama pants (skirt) 

Hakama pants are a gift to the groom as part of the Yui-no, the phase of the traditional Japanese wedding. For a wedding they would be black, but to emphasis the detail of the design we have shown a patterned style.

Traditional Japanese Wedding Topics
Ancient Japanese Weddings
Mi-ai
Yui-no
Nakodo
Wedding Ceremony
Wedding Receptions